Silencing of Bartimaeus

Sermon Oct 25 2015 from Heather Rodenborg on Vimeo.

Below is my sermon text based upon Mark 10:46-52

Mark 10:46-52

They came to Jericho. As he and his disciples and a large crowd were leaving Jericho, Bartimaeus son of Timaeus, a blind beggar, was sitting by the roadside. When he heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth, he began to shout out and say, “Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!” Many sternly ordered him to be quiet, but he cried out even more loudly, “Son of David, have mercy on me!” Jesus stood still and said, “Call him here.” And they called the blind man, saying to him, “Take heart; get up, he is calling you.” So throwing off his cloak, he sprang up and came to Jesus. Then Jesus said to him, “What do ou want me to do for you?” The blind man said to him, “My teacher, let me see again.” Jesus said to him, “Go; your faith has made you well.” Immediately he regained his sight and followed him on the way.

There is a lot going on in this scripture this morning. You have Bartimaeus who is blind and the only source of income he has is from begging. You have Jesus who is gaining followers and clout because of his teachings and the miracles that he is performing. You have the disciples who have been following Jesus. And then you have the crowd, the many, who are following Jesus.

            Bartimaeus heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth who was approaching and passing by. We aren’t told what it was that he had heard about him, but it was enough for him to shout out, “Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!” We can only assume that Bartimaeus had heard the stories of Jesus, he had heard about the miracles that he was performing throughout the land, and had faith that this was that Jesus. He couldn’t see him, he didn’t know what he looked like, but he heard that it was him and had faith in Jesus. I can only imagine what he was probably feeling and thinking, but it was probably something to the effect of, “This is my chance. This could be the man I heard about. This could be the one who has healed others. This is my moment to meet him, to talk to him. I have to do something!” And Bartimaeus did something, he shouted out to Jesus, “Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!”

            When Bartimaeus shouted out to Jesus; however, he upset the homeostasis of the crowd. Then the “many,” whomever they were, they didn’t just tell Bartimaeus to be quiet but they “sternly” ordered him to be quiet. Did they do this because he was blind? Did they do this because he was an outcast? Did they do this because he was a beggar living on the margins of society? I would guess it was because of all of these. They wanted to silence Bartimaeus. They didn’t want him interrupting Jesus, they wanted him to be quiet and remain in his place.

            Why? Because this is what we do. We keep silent, and we urge others to the same. We keep silent because it would require taking a risk. We risk rejection, we risk confrontation. Every day we engage in conversations in which we weigh the risks of what we say or what we ask. I’ve sat with families in the ICU in which family members have disagreed regarding the plan of care for their family members. Some have disagreed and/or had questions about the extent of treatment they should allow to take place. Others have been afraid to ask the doctor questions because they don’t understand the treatment. And others have wondered, silently, whether they were doing the right thing for their family member. They have remained silent because of the fear of rejection and/or risk that they take in asking questions; engaging in conversation. In this, they are allowing their fear to silence them. We can’t let our fear win. We can’t let our fear silence us.

We also can’t be those in the scripture who were trying to silence Bartimaeus. When we force others to remain quiet because it could cause us to become uncomfortable, we silence their voice, and we reject them and their experience. Those that were trying to silence Bartimaeus that day, were rejecting him and his experience. This type of rejection continues to take place today in our society. I’ve seen the voices of those without homes being silenced, voices of young people of color who are being silenced, and the voices of women being silenced.

I can’t tell you the number of veterans who I have spoken with who have felt like their voices were being silenced. My father-in-law, for example, fought in Vietnam. Many veterans, such as himself, had their voices silenced by the public when they came back. They didn’t feel supported because they fought in a war in which our country lost. People didn’t want to listen to their experiences.

Take a moment and think about the ways we silence one another, even when we don’t intend it. In group therapy, for example, I know a few counselors who don’t allow kleenexes to be passed to the person who is crying. The reason for this is simple. By giving a person who is crying kleenexes, we are telling them to clean up their tears. Tears make people uncomfortable, but it’s a normal human reaction to pain and suffering. In letting tears falls, we honor the tears and honor the person.

But it’s not just limited to tears, look at the way our society handles grief. When you lose a family member, you are lucky to even receive one week off for bereavement. After that week, your employer expects you to come back to work and not be grieving anymore. Your grief is being silenced. And even in that, we don’t speak about it because we often silence ourselves.

The way in which we solve silencing ourselves and others is realizing our worthiness. But realizing our worthiness isn’t always easy. The greatest challenge for most of us is believing that we are worthy right now. We can’t believe this because we set unrealistic goals for ourselves. We believe we will be worthy once we have lost 15 pounds. We will be worthy once we become and stay sober. We will be worth once we get that dream job. We will be worthy once we are able to hold our marriage together. Or,we will be worthy once our parents finally approve. This is not the way in which God works. This isn’t the way in which God measures our worthiness.

We are worthy because God loves us unconditionally. Bartimaeus knew his worthiness, he knew he was loved by God, and he didn’t let those around him that day silence him. He had faith and courage that day to call out to Jesus. And in his calling out to Jesus and overcoming fear and silencing, he made everyone around him a little bit better and the world a little bit braver. And he allowed Jesus to use him for something bigger and better then he would have ever imagined.

Be a Bartimaeus, overcome whatever fears maybe silencing you. Overcome anyone who maybe silencing you. End the silencing of others. In doing so, you will become a little bit better and make the world a little bit braver.

Amen.

God Heard

Sermon October 18 2015 from Heather Rodenborg on Vimeo.

Devotional for Chapel on 10/18/15.

Hebrews 5:1-10

Every high priest chosen from among mortals is put in charge of things pertaining to God on their behalf, to offer gifts and sacrifices for sins. He is able to deal gently with the ignorant and wayward, since he himself is subject to weakness; and because of this he must offer sacrifice for his own sins as well as for those of the people. And one does not presume to take this honor, but takes it only when called by God, just as Aaron was. So also Christ did not glorify himself in becoming a high priest, but was appointed by the one who said to him, “You are my Son, today I have begotten you”; as he says also in another place, “You are a priest forever, according to the order of Melchizedek.” In the days of his flesh, Jesus offered up prayers and supplications, with loud cries and tears, to the one who was able to save him from death, and he was heard because of his reverent submission. Although he was a Son, he learned obedience through what he suffered; and having been made perfect, he became the source of eternal salvation for all who obey him, having been designated by God a high priest according to the order of Melchizedek.”

When you pray, do you ever feel like no one is listening? Have you ever sat pray feeling like your words were just drifting off unheard? Here in the hospital, prayers are said daily. There are prayers for healing to take place for someone who is ill, prayers for comfort for families who have lost a family member, prayers of thanksgiving for those celebrating a new life, and sometimes just prayers to make it through the day. I have heard people question whether or not their prayers have been heard, or even wonder why they aren’t being answered. Are our prayers just empty words floating off into the world unheard?

I remember at a young age going to church and being taught that we need to pray each day to God. In our prayers, I was told that I needed to ask for forgiveness. In asking for forgiveness from God then I could ask God for the things that I needed. The church taught this was biblical because Jesus said in Matthew 7:7, “Ask, and it will be given you; search, and you will find; knock, and the door will be opened for you.” And if the bible says that all we have to do is ask and we will receive, well then my prayers will be heard and answered, right? I don’t know about you, but I have a lot of prayers that feel like they have gone unheard and unanswered. I remember in high school the more simple prayers, “God help me pass this test,” or “God help me get an A in math.” That didn’t always happen. Then when I was 20, I remember sitting next to my dad in the hospital. I remember praying over and over for God to heal him, praying for God to bring him back to us from his accident. When my dad died, I felt like God didn’t hear me. I felt like God was ignoring my prayers. I questioned God about this. Why God didn’t you hear me and answer my prayers for my dad, he was a good man. He went to church, he loved his neighbors, he did everything right. Where my prayers not heard?

Jesus did everything right. Jesus was both fully human and fully divine. We read in the bible the stories of him walking with the people, healing them, teaching them, and loving them. Jesus was a man without sin; yet even his prayers went unanswered. We read about him in the garden on the night of his arrest, “God not my will but yours be done.” Jesus didn’t want to die on the cross. Jesus even cried out on the cross, “My God, my God why have you forsaken me.” Where Jesus’ prayers not heard?

 These questions of whether or not we are heard, or if Jesus was heard, are found in our scripture this morning. More precisely in Hebrews 5:7, “In the days of his flesh, Jesus offered up prayers and supplications, with loud cries and tears, to the one who was able to save him from death, and he was heard because of his reverent submission.” It doesn’t say that Jesus’ prayers were answered; it says that he was heard. God heard Jesus’ loud cries. God heard Jesus’ tears. Jesus’ prayers didn’t go unheard; God heard every single one of them.

  Reading that God heard Jesus prayers gives me hope. Yes, his prayers weren’t answered, but God isn’t a genie who grants wishes. God is our creator who hears the cries and prayers of all of us. In God’s hearing, God acknowledges our existence. Our cries, our prayers, bring voice to the pain we are suffering through. They bring voice to the struggles that we are trying to overcome. They bring voice to the grief that is weighing heavy on our hearts.

As a chaplain, I’ve learned to listen to both the said and unsaid. There have been many times when I have asked someone “How are you today,” to those in my presence and received the response of, “I’m doing good.” This is a common polite interaction that many of us do multiple times daily with friends, family, and co-workers. However, I’ve learned to read people and listen for the unsaid. The other day when I posed this to friend, she responded with a polite, “Doing good.” I could tell she didn’t look good, she looked tired. I said to her, “I don’t know if I believe that because you look tired to me.” In acknowledging the unsaid, she broke down. She shared with me everything that was going on her life. When she was done, she thanked me for listening. The only thing that I could do for her in that moment was to listen. I couldn’t solve her suffering. I couldn’t even provide her with any ideas on how to manage everything. All I could do was listen and tell her that I would be holding her in prayer. In listening to her, I acknowledged her pain and suffering that she was going through. That is what God does with us.

God listens to everything we lift up, whether is be in joy or sorrow. God acknowledges our cries, our pain, and our suffering just as God did with Jesus. It’s okay to cry out in pain and anger to God, and it’s okay to unload all our worries and fears to God. God can handle it all, and God will hear it all. God says to us, “Speak my beloved child, for I am listening.”

Amen

Letting Go

One of the great privileges of my job is getting to be present at the end of life. I have been a part of and been a witness to over 100 deaths. At all there are tears shed, sometimes in joy over a life long lived, sometimes in pain over a life cut short. Each of these moments are sacred. Each of these moments are holy.

The other day I was present at a death that I will never forget. This patient had no family, there was no one in the room, no one to call to hold a hand, and no one to shed a tear when a last breath was taken. No one, except for me. As this person's heart rate started to drop, I held a frail hand, looked into this person eyes, and said to them that it was okay to let go. It that moment, time stood still, God was present, a last breath was taken, and a soul was set free. In that moment, the vail between this world and the next was lowered.

I share this because sometimes I think that we get so caught up in the world around us that we forget that we are all the same. I didn't know this person, I didn't know their story, and they didn't know me. However, we were connected. We were connected in our joint humanity. We filled our lungs with the same air, we filled the same room with our presence, and we were created by the same Creator. I let go, in that moment, who I was in order to be present with this person. I let go of my judgement, I let go of my to do list, I let go my personal space to share in that moment.

It's so easy to get caught up in the things of this world that we forget that we are part of something so much bigger. We are part of something bigger then our jobs, our money, our possessions, our identity, our sexuality, and our titles. We are part of creation, we are the created and the creating. We are fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God. We are made perfectly and loved perfectly by our Creator. Who we are, every single one of us, is connected.

Stop what you are doing right now and look around you. Look at the people around you, look at them closely. What do you notice? What do you see? They too are made in the image of God, just like you. They too are breathing the same air that you are breathing. They too are probably struggling with something right now just like you. Their humanity, is connected with your humanity. They are loved by their Creator, just like you are loved by your Creator.

Rejoice in it! Celebrate it! Let everything go, and dance in it.
We only get one life, so be present in it.

Rejection

Since being approved for Ordination pending a call in October and putting my profile together, I have now been rejected for over 75 jobs. Not all of these are church jobs, some are chaplain jobs with hospice locations and hospital jobs. Some of these are even non-profit jobs working with homeless persons or domestic violence shelters. Each day I open my email to another rejection. In a majority of the cases, I haven't even had the chance to interview.

My struggle: I know God has called me to ministry. I know that God has gifted me for ministry. I know others see this because they have approved me for ordination. Yet I can't seem to get a break. I can't get one church or organization to take a chance on me and hire me. I would be a pretty awesome hire, too. I'm smart, funny, gifted, have awesome pastoral care skills, great experience, and am not afraid to take on a challenge. And after being rejected this many times, I wouldn't take any position for granted. Yet each new day leads to more rejection.

How does a person keep on going? How do I keep on going? I could give up and take a job in customer service, I have years of experience doing that. But giving up after spending 8 years in college, thousands of dollars in educational expenses, thousands of hours writing papers and preparing or ordination interviews, and countless hours in prayer about my call with God, giving up is not in my future. Giving up on my call would mean giving up on God and myself.

So I sit here searching for jobs, applying, praying for one chance while preparing for more rejection. I won't let the rejection win.

What do you do to get through your rejection? How do you remain positive?

Heather

PS. Please don't say "everything is in God's timing," or "God is just preparing you for something better" because that would mean that God is causing all the rejection. God isn't in the business of heartache and rejection, God is in the business of love, acceptance, and resurrection.

Waiting

Each day I am at the hospital, I play the waiting game. I don't just play it once, but multiple times with multiple families. I sit and wait with the families of trauma patients who are brought in. I wait with cancer patients as they are waiting to hear news regarding the cancer they are fighting. I wait with families who are sitting waiting for their family member to take their last breath. I wait with expecting partners as they wait for the birth of their child.

I wait; they wait; we wait together.

Waiting is always hardest for those who are doing the waiting. We are vulnerable in the waiting because there is nothing that we can do. We can't make time go faster. We literally can't do anything at all except to sit and wait.

Waiting isn't new. In fact, waiting is very much biblical. Abraham waited for years to have children. It wasn't until Abraham was 100 that Sarah finally gave birth to their son Isaac.

Joseph waited at a few different times in his life: as a slave and in jail.

Then there is the story of Job, in which we read of him waiting through loss.

Of course we can't forget Simeon, who waited for years for the Messiah and finally held him in his arms.

And lastly, the disciples, they waited for Jesus after his crucifixion and the Holy Spirit after Jesus' ascension into Heaven.

Waiting....

Waiting....

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Waiting is painful. It can makes us angry and frustrated. Waiting can be sad. Waiting can be filled with anxiety.

Waiting....

What does waiting make you feel? How has waiting changed you?

For me, waiting reminds me that each moment is precious. Each moment I have with someone could be the last. Waiting has changed me and caused me to grow. Waiting has caused tears as I wait for the end to come for a loved one. Waiting has made me nervous as I waited to walk down the aisle at my wedding. And waiting has reminded me that I am not alone on this journey. While I wait, God is waiting with me. God waits, as I wait.

God waits with us all, as we wait for what is to come next.

Good in the Suffering

Romans 8:27-28 "And God, who searches the heart, knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God. We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, who are called according to God's purpose."

Have you ever just picked up a bible and randomly opened it up and put your fingers onto the page and seen where they land? Well today I did this and landed on these two verses. The funny thing is, it happened while I was at work at the hospital. I admit, it is hard to see anything good in the hospital. Most of my days are spent sitting with those dying of cancer or who have had a stroke causing brain death. In the room, with these families, it is hard to see good.

When I am not in oncology or on the neuro unit, I also respond to traumas. Traumas have ranged from children being in a accident to self-inflicted gun shot wounds. In these rooms, good is also hard to see.

Where is the "good" in suffering? Or, as many have asked me, "Where is God?"

It's hard to see good in suffering. Sometimes, it's even harder to see God in the suffering. But God is there. Verse 28 says, "We know that all things work together for good for those who love God." Many times when this is read, we read it thinking that it means the "good" is everything  working out the way we want it to work out. Wouldn't that be nice?

For me, reading this verse means something new given my experiences in the hospital. "Good" for me has taken on a new meaning. "Good" has become families standing next to each other holding each other as their loved one takes their last breath. "Good" is a son getting to tell his father "I love you" one last time. "Good" is a mother donating her child's organs and saving the lives of 10 people. "Good" is a cancer patient being able to see all their family together in the same room for the first time in 15 years. "Good" is countless families allowing me to step into their sacred moments to pray for God to comfort them, weep with them, mourning with them, scream with them, laugh with them, and let go with them.

"Good" is the fact that God is with us on the journey called life and that we are never ever alone. So today, I am thankful for this small reminder from God.

Darkness

            Ever since I was a child, I have been afraid of the dark. Even today I still have moments where when it gets super dark, I start to get anxious. I think this stems from when I was a child and Michael Jackson’s Thriller video came out. I think I was 4 or 5 at the time when I saw the video. For the longest time I was afraid that Michael Jackson was living under bed, waiting to come out at night and bite me and make me a zombie. I know, it is a very irrational fear. But because of this, I have always had to have a nightlight. Just a little bit of light that would help with my fear.

            Now, however, this fear is gone. I have learned to embrace and become comfortable in the darkness. I’m not 100% there but I’m getting there. Why? Because learning to live in the darkness can be a transforming experience. And, if you remember, resurrection takes place in the darkness.

            On Easter, we ring in the resurrection with light, the opposite of darkness. The liturgical color is white, we dress up kids in bright colorful outfits, put Easter lilies all around the sanctuary, and strike up the band. This is all great, because we should celebrate, but this isn't actually how the resurrection was. Open up the bible to the gospels and read the resurrection story and you will see that we read about the after effects.

            None of the Gospels talk about what actually happened in the tomb, in the darkness. But we know what happened after. It was in the darkness of the tomb, that resurrection took place. It was in the darkness of the tomb that life conquered death. Darkness experienced the resurrection before anyone else.

            Darkness comes at us in many different forms. Darkness can be literal, but it can also be a place where we are at in our lives. Darkness could be the grief that we are experiencing. Darkness could be the loss of a job. Darkness could be the loss of a relationship. Or darkness could be the news you have just received regarding your health. Darkness becomes that moment when we feel like we have no hope, no future.

            It is hard to stay and sit in the darkness because it is uncomfortable. We don’t know what is out ahead of us in the future because we can’t see through the darkness. But in darkness, we remember, that resurrection will come. As day turns to night and darkness fills the earth, we have to remember that the darkness is only temporary. Even in the darkness there is light, there is the light of the moon. As with the darkness that we are experiencing, there is light.

            In our darkness, we are not alone. When Jesus was in the cave, he was not alone in the darkness. In the resurrection, God was present. As with the resurrection, God is present in our darkness. And, not only is God present, but so are our friends and family. We are not alone in the darkness, because we are surrounded by the light and love of our community. 

            So don’t lose hope in your darkness, because resurrection is coming. I promise you that resurrection is coming.

I don't see "thugs"

I've seen many friends on social media posting about the "thugs" in Baltimore. What saddens me is that these friends are pastors or are going to school to become pastors. They should know better then to just look at the images coming out of Baltimore and pass judgement.

When I look at these images, I don't see "thugs."

I see children who only receive one meal at day from their school.
I see young men and women being told their lives are worth nothing and they will amount to nothing.
I see years of systemic oppression.
I see the lack in educational funds to an impoverished area.
I see single parents doing the best they can to provide for their children while making minimum wage.
I see lack of jobs in which people can make a living wage.
I see the lack of mentors for children who could make a difference in the world.
I see the lack of leadership willing to make a difference.
I see missing community resources.

I don't see "thugs," I see hurting people who's voices have been silenced for to long. I encourage you to look again and rethink some of your thoughts and assumptions. If you were in their shoes, would you not be crying out for justice like they are?

Day of Silence

The following sermon was preached on April 16th, 2015 in chapel at Southern Methodist University in honor of GLSEN's National Day of Silence to end bullying against LGBT persons.

Micah 6:6-8 “With what shall I come before the Lord, and bow myself before God on high? Shall I come before him with burnt offerings, with calves a year old? Will the Lord be pleased with thousands of rams, with ten thousands of rivers of oil? Shall I give my firstborn for my transgression, the fruit of my body for the sin of my soul?” He has told you, O mortal, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?"

Tomorrow, April 17th, is the National Day of Silence. It was founded in 1996 and has become the largest student led event toward creating safer schools for LGBT persons. This day both inspires me and makes me sad. I’m inspired by the thousands of students around the world who pledge to remain silent for the day in support of LGBT persons. The reason it makes me sad, is the fact that we even have to have a day. Thousands of LGBT persons are bullied each and every day in their homes, schools, walking down the streets, on social media, and even while shopping in stores. Bullying happens to youth, adults, male and female, Anglo, Latino, African American, Christian, Atheist, and Muslim. No LGBT person is free from it.

I myself have been bullied by Christians, non-christians, even family members. It happened in church, while on vacation, and out shopping. The most memorable experience happened at a grocery store here in Dallas. One evening, I went to pick up a few things for dinner. I happened to be wearing an Old Navy T-shirt that had a rainbow flag on it, and it said, “Love with Pride.” There wasn’t anything offensive about the shirt at all. While standing in the bread aisle an African American woman in her 30’s with her 4 little children came walking towards me. The woman looked at my shirt, then at me, and called me a “Faggot.” Those of you who know me, know that I am not a person to just take it and not say anything, I confront people. But that day, reasoning got the best of me. I really wanted to stand there and tell the woman the history of the word she just used. Explain to her that, that word has the same kind of horrible history as another word that has probably been flung at her. And how she was setting a bad example for her children, who may have LGBT friends. And of course, being a seminary graduate, explain to her everything I know about the bible. However, like I said, reason got the best of me. Instead I looked at her and said, “Yes I am and God loves you and me just the same” and walked away. Of course, me being the extravert that I am, I saved it all for when Amanda got home and blurted it all out to her. Everything I really wanted to say, came out in the conversation I had with Amanda.

And, sadly, the SMU campus is also a place in which bullying has taken place. As some of you may remember, last year LGBT students and allies fought to add an LGBT student senate seat to the senate. Prior to the vote, multiple students took to Yik Yak to express their feelings regarding the addition of the seat. Yik Yak showed just how homophobic the SMU campus can be. Anonymous students posted saying, “I hate the term homophobic- it means a fear of gay people. I don’t fear them at all, I just don’t like them.” Another student said, “Yeah, I’m homophobic, so what?” Another, “Bi-sexuals are just confused and need to grow up.” These are just a few of the less inflammatory posts that were made. The vote took place and failed, the hate speech continued, and LGBT students were targeted. It’s been just about a year, have things changed? Slightly, but the bullying still continues, homophobic commits are still being posted on Yik Yak, and students are still afraid to come out.

But bullying isn’t just limited to LGBT persons, our allies are also being bullied. I have countless friends who are pastors in the UMC who are afraid to speak out for full inclusion because they fear the consequences. Last summer, when Amanda and I got married at our UCC church, we even had friends who were afraid to attend because of fear of the District superintendent finding out.

What saddens me about the bullying - both that I heard about from others, and that I’ve experienced myself - is that it often comes from people who call and consider themselves Christian. This type of action is not what God requires of us, to use the language from our scripture. God doesn’t ask us to go up to LGBT persons and tell them the way they are living their lives is sinful, because it isn’t. God doesn’t ask us to throw out our LGBT children onto the streets. God doesn’t ask us to take the lives of transgender people. This IS NOT what God asks of us. This is the opposite of what God asks of us.

What does God ask of us? Micah 6:8 tells us, “God has told you, O Mortal, what is good; and what does God require of you but to do JUSTICE, and to LOVE kindness, and to walk humbly with your God.” JUSTICE and LOVE, is what God REQUIRES of us.

I want to read you a few statistics that I found. Did you know that 20% of homeless youth in the US are LGBT, while 40% of homeless youth in the state of Texas are believed to be LGBT. They come out to their parents or their parents find out about their sexual orientation and kick them out onto the streets. While on the streets, they do whatever they can do to survive. In most cases, this involves selling themselves for sex in order to have food to eat. Because it is a horrible life, 62% of these youth will attempt to kill themselves.

The suicide rate for transgender persons ages 18-24 is 45%. So if you were in a room with 100 transgender persons, 45 of them would attempt to kill themselves. In 2014, 226 reported cases of murder were of transgender persons. Of the 226, 104 took place in the United States. With a high percentage being persons of color.

Leelah Alcorn came out to her parents as transgender at 14. Her parents did not accept her. When she was 16, her parents sent her to a “Christian” conversion camp to try and “fix her.” On December 28th, 2014, Leelah step out into traffic on interstate 71 outside Kings Mill, Ohio and was killed by a semi-truck. To this day her parents still defend their actions and still use masculine language when talking about her.

Blake Brockington made headlines in 2014 when he was elected as the first transgender homecoming king in the state of North Carolina at East Mecklenburg High School. He was an outspoken advocate for social justice. He had moved into a foster home after starting to transition because his parents no longer wanted him in their home. On March 23, Blake walked into traffic was killed after being struck by multiple vehicles.

Britney Cosby and Crystal Jackson had been together for two years. They were raising a 5 year old little girl. On March 7th, 2014, a beer delivery driver found their bodies next to a dumpster in a town outside of Houston. Britney was beaten to death and Crystal was shot. The person who committed the crime was James Cosby, Britney’s father. He beat his daughter to death because she was gay.

What does God ask of us? Micah 6:8 tells us, “God has told you, O Mortal, what is good; and what does God require of you but to do JUSTICE, and to LOVE kindness, and to walk humbly with your God.” Justice for Leelah Alcorn. Justice for Blake Brockington. Justice for Britney Cosby and Crystal Jackson. Justice for those LGBT persons in Texas who are oppressed and denied rights. Justice for LGBT persons in Dallas who are victims of violence and discrimination. And justice for LGBT students here on campus who are bullied.

So what does justice look like? How many of you have seen the cartoon illustration with three people varying in height before a fence at the edge of a baseball field? For the sake of this illustration, one person is 6 feet tall, the second person is 4 feet tall, and the third person is probably 2 feet tall. Under the title of equality, you have all three of the persons standing on what looks like to be a crate, which I am going to say is 2ft by 2ft. The 6 ft person can see clearly over the fence, and likely has a 2 ft advantage. The 4 ft person can see just over the fence, but the shortest of the three, even standing on the crate, is still unable to see over the fence because they aren’t up high enough. Under the title: Justice, the same three persons stand at the same fence, except the tallest has given their crate to the shortest person allowing them to see over the fence. The title of this says, “Equality doesn’t mean Justice.”

Just because we may be heading toward equality doesn’t mean we will have justice. The best way to understand this is with the following example of credo. Equality would be taking all the credo scores, those that did well and those that didn’t do so well, and averaging them up and giving everyone the same grade. So the person who spent an hour on their credo and may score an F, could actually end up with a higher grade and vice versa, the person who spent weeks on their credo and scored a 100% would get a lower score. Everyone has an equal score, and equality is achieved. How many of you would be happy with that? I would if I was the one who spent an hour on my credo. But that isn’t justice. Equality is you getting a grade, justice is you getting the grade you worked for.

What does God require of us? God requires of us to do JUSTICE, and to LOVE kindness, and to walk humbly with your God.

Justice starts with the words we speak and don’t speak. Tomorrow, on the National Day of Silence, we can take a step toward justice by standing up for those who are being bullied because of their sexual orientation. After awareness from the silence, we need to speak out for LGBT justice. We need to speak out for those who have been silenced. We need to seek justice for the LGBT person by making sure they have access to health care; we need to seek justice in making sure that they have employment protection; we need to seek justice by making sure LGBT persons feel welcome in our churches; we need to seek justice by bringing awareness regarding transgender issues; and we need to seek justice by calling out the sin of discrimination and oppression against LGBT persons.

When we seek justice, we love our neighbors, and when we love our neighbors we walk humbly with God.

Amen.

What Marriage Equality Means To Me

            I didn’t make a choice to be gay. Why would someone make a choice to live a life where they are discriminated against, called horrible names, have fewer rights then others, and feel scared in public. No one would choose this life for themselves. I was born this way. This is who God has created me to be. I also didn’t choose to fall in love. When Amanda walked into my life, she walked straight into my heart. She literally took my breath away.

           

            When we got married this last summer in Lowell, MA, we were in a state that looked at our marriage with validity. We had the same rights as every other married couple in that state. Then we got on a plane and flew back to Texas. When we landed, I turned to Amanda and said, “Well we are no longer married.” Both of our hearts sunk. In Texas, we are not seen as equal in the eyes of others, our marriage isn’t valid, and we are considered second class citizens. Our marriage is the same as any straight couples. We talk about our future, we clean the house, we walk the dog, we go to church, etc. The only difference is our gender. Our gender makes us second class.

            A lot of people think that marriage equality is only about the government recognizing our marriage. Yes it is, but it is also more then that. These last few months, we have been attempting to get pregnant. I have always known since I was in my early 20’s that I probably wouldn’t be able to have a baby. Plus if I did get pregnant, there was the possibility that our child would be born with a seizure disorder that is very common in my family. So we set out to get Amanda pregnant. Long story short, we haven’t had any success and doctor is suggesting IVF. IVF is about 15 to 20 thousand dollars, we don’t have that money.

Both of us would love to have a child, more then anything. When we first started talking about children, we had talked about having one and maybe adopting one. Here is where marriage equality gets important. If you live in the state of Texas and are a heterosexual couple, you can adopt from the state. State adoption costs are nominal and you get tax benefits as well as adoption assistance. Some couples who adopt even receive monthly payments from the state until the child is 18. Since Amanda and I are a same-sex couple, we can’t adopt, we can’t even foster a child. Marriage equality would mean that we would be able to adopt from the state and help out a child in need.

Now you maybe asking, “Why not a private adoption?” That is a great question. Yes we could do a private adoption; however, not all private agencies are LGBT friendly and the cost is around 20K. It breaks my heart that there are so many children waiting for a home and many same-sex couples that would love to provide them but are turned away. How can that be right? With marriage equality, hundreds of children living in foster care or state housing could be provided a home to live in. This is one of the many reasons why marriage equality is important. It’s not just about Amanda and I, it’s about hundreds of couples and children that are being kept apart all because of who they love.

In the coming month, the US Supreme court will take up a marriage equality case that could make marriage equality law throughout the US. I hope and pray that this happens, not just for my sake, but the sake of many. 

Unsung Lullabies & Untold Stories

I said goodbye to you today.

    I said goodbye even though

       I never knew you.

 

I'll never get to hold you,

    never get to kiss you.

I'll never get to tuck you in at night

    or hold you after a bad dream.

 

Why?

    Because the doctor said so.

 

It's not my choice,

    it's not our choice.

 

If our love could create you,

    we would have 100 of you.

 

The baby books we bought will be donated,

    the clothes will clothe another.

 

We dreamed of you often:

    What would your name be?

        What would you look like?

            Would you have my sense of humor,

            and her blue eyes?

 

We will never know.

    Hopes....

        Dreams...

            Gone...

 

In place

    Tears...

        Tears...

            Tears...

 

The bedtime prayers will go unprayed.

    The lullabies unsung.

The stories,

    all the stories,

        will go untold.

 

We loved you before we knew you,

    which made it even harder to say.

        Goodbye.

            Goodbye.